Pray for me I was once like you.
Be kind and loving to me that's how I would have treated you.
Remember I was once someone's parent or spouse I had a life and a dream for the future.
Speak to me, I can hear you even if I don't understand what you are saying.
Speak to me of things in my past of which I can still relate.
Be considerate of me, my days are such a struggle.
Think of my feelings because I still have them and can feel pain.
Treat me with respect because I would have treated you that way.
Think of how I was before I got Alzheimer's; I was full of life, I had a life, laughed and loved you.
Think of how I am now, My disease distorts my thinking, my feelings, and my ability to respond, but I still love you even if I can't tell you.
Think about my future because I used too.
Remember I was full of hope for the future just like you are now.
Think how it would be to have things locked in your mind and can't let them out.
I need you to understand and not blame me, but Alzheimer's.
I still need the compassion and the touching and most of all I still need you to love me.
Keep me in your prayers because I am between life and death.
The love you give will be a blessing from God and both of us will live forever.
How you live and what you do today will always be remembered in the heart of the Alzheimer's Patient.
Copyright © 2000 Carolyn Haynali
Used with permission of the author.
Carolyn's husband, Chuck, has Alzheimer's. She was his full-time caregiver until he was placed in a facility in 1999. Carolyn's web site at https://www.caregiversarmy.org/Carolyn/ features her poetry and her journal. Carolyn is also founder of Caregiver's Army.
The Senility Prayer
God grant me... The senility to forget the people I never liked The good fortune to run into the ones that I do And the eyesight to tell the difference."
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